outgrew..

   It was only a few days before i told it's meaning to akshita. But it is more applicable on me. I met pi and found she is too left fro me. She's not cool for me anymore. I don't want to be like her at all. She is just disoriented, messed up girl who will talk to a murderer without thinking about anything. I ve just found the new confident me who appreciates herself without deprecating others. I don't need others approval i know i am fine. I get bored easily in company of others.
  May be it has something to do with mayuresh. I enjoy with him so much that it's hard to find fun outside. A trip to school friend made me realize it more. Just a wastage of money, time and energy.
 I have always been hungry for other ppl attention, admiration etc etc but i suddenly feel comfortable in my own shoes.
I can't believe i am so unimaginative but only yesterday my head was so full of thought. pretty good thoughts i recall..

My Birthday..

My finally awaited dreaded. but inevitable birthday has arrived. I know i should have celebrated more ages like 21 , 22, 23 or evn 24 better. I really wish i could have. I miss being younger. I just feel so much more old. I am so late according to my clock and plan.
Don't know what else to say.But i don't want any cake to be put on my face and hair. i just washed my hairs. i know this b day is going to be memorable.Something tells me this year is going to be wonderful.All things i ve waited will finally come to me. More importantly i will become more wise and more equiped to handle this world and my life better. I trust god. He will take care of everything. I will just give my best to everything in my life.
I really wish he shows up with mind blowing gift.I know it is too much pressure or too much to expect from him.Okay.. i just want he shows up on time.He doesn't gets irritated and retains his mood sweet and romantic throughout the time spent.
I really want this day be memorable. I really want to feel like a princess. I feel like my childhood fantasy.. But i know shit will happen if i keep my expectations too high. I know i am going to cry tomorrow for something or other.It always happens when i keep my hopes and spirits high..
whatever.. happy birthday..

My upcoming Birthday...

I know preeti is preparing for my b day and that too a surprise i never got. In fact it is the surprise that i have never got on my birthday. In fact i don't recall any memorable birthday except the one in which blue biird fell in my corridor. I always wanted small small things or surprises never a big thing. BUt as for my parents were concerned money was more important than anything else. Each year i had to convince them to celebrate my b day. Even if they did no one came as everyone back then used to go to relatives place. Even at my taiji's i had to beg for cake adn small party adn all i got were bunch of pastries passed for cake. Even gifts were asked before hand to prevent any misunderstandings. As for my mother she never thought my birth on this earth deserved anything and not in the least a gift. Evn when my birthday was celebrated the tension of holding a patry was too much for her. She would snap on me often adn beat me too. Even party was for others. 

I was never enough popular among friends school or college. In fact in college the birthday wishes i got were maximum 2 or 3 including one from myu. My relationship with myu was always underwater to expect anything out of him. Eventhe gifts he claimed to have bought for me were nevr recieved whether it was denim skirt or so called payal.. They became panki bhaiya's make up box. 

I don't even know how to react when i will finally feel satiated. I don't think myu can ever do it right. It is too late to do all the things i wished for. Even if he does they all will be just acknowledged not enjoyed and i would just feel awkward instead of feeling obliged or at least happy. Though i am accustomed in buying him things and i have learnt to expect nothing out of him. HIs own expenses are hard to meet for him.

Birthday will become more memorable if i get through IES with a nice rank. BUt probably it is too much to ask.

I don't even remeber when i last cut cake on my birthday??? Or even eaten a piece of pastry?/ Or even enjoyed.Let's see if this birthday will bring something else in my life..

Post Written qualified.

As any other blogger i wish i was wrote more often.
Having a new phase. Caan't sleep. Don't know why?
Post Ies drama i became too focussed sucking all life out of me for single minded pursuit . feeling guilty of every minute waste. but now i m just enjoying myself. watched luv tuv tey chicken khurana. i think a good hindi movie after ages. Was confused a few days back but now much now. Whatever will happen, will happen.It feels some kind of waiting period. Watching period how things go. On which side elephant would sit. Wish it was over sooner but decided to enjoy. Sort of pampering myself, may be at a wrong time. But i can surely manage college doing all the fun as well.
Sometimes a get a feeling something is planned for me. And just for this moment i know god has plans for me.
I can't believe that i even forgot reading books. When i came here i found something amiss. It was only after i went on the first floor of library i realized i have not read a book. Strange!!! A girl always with a book in hand forgot that she derived happiness, fulfillment, even entertainment from book and not from sitcoms. If anyone had told me to jump the cliff trusting god i would have.

My first presentation...

   I am writing again after a long time. Many things have come and gone through. Sometimes i feel like a bridge. Life's like a river that keep on passing below me. Sometimes water is clear sometimes flithy, sometime less sometime more.Sometime it soothes me sometimes threatens me, my existence.
I am grown more accoustomed to failures and started to become more stiff. I am no more a mouldable girl now i want things my way. I am learning to live with myself, my decisions, my family, my thoughts, my loneliness.
    Most of the time i am at peace with myself but there are times when i ask "per che" means for whom and why? Sometimes i want to cry like anything.One moment i am cheerful next moment tears well up in my eyes.

I have taken admission in a M tech college and i have started to find meanings in it. But a surprise moment came when i wwas aske dto present a seminar in front of v.c and every other person who want to come and i did relatively good.I did not expect it from myself. I was happy yesterday but not now as i have almost forgotten the feeling. My head is pressed with other matters which need more of my space.I'll try to write more often from now...

Feeling worthless..

 If someone was actually following up my blog he/she would feel my life is a complete drag on.It's not actually.I have many happy blissful days when i am all gung ho about life.But it's not in that mood i feel like writing blog.It's actually on days like this one has patience and motivation to scribble sorry type some soulful words in this space and sent to world wide web.Now i feel why in olden days people used to write a note, put it in bottle cork it and throw it in big wide ocean.So that some day someone or even lucky they themselves could uncork it and feel nostalgic.That's why we love literature.Anybody's thoughts feelings.I think it is some aspect of human civilization called communication.They have a very severe punishment called solitary confinement to stop this pleasure.I feel nothing would be the same if we have no body to talk to.
  Well i am feeling so worthless.I hate HPCL.If i hadn't got a call for interview from there i would have been somewhere not here repeating the things again and again.They almost made me believe that i was good enough and interview will be a cake walk.So overconfident me.And i stopped studying.Got myself more involved into my family which further made it worse.Interview happened pretty late.I almost got sick of opening their page in internet explorer.I can't fathom the reason all psu prefer it.It came so late and at a bad timing.Things were not great at home.I screwed up the interview with my nervousness in which i tend to speak more and more without thinking twice.My mother helped it in too.She came inside office in her dress asking when it will be over.So they got it done first.May be not a favorable impression.I just want to cry over that lost chance or split milk as you can say.It was my first.I was so uselessly hopeful.Lost dreams lesson gained.Don't go inside unprepared.And never bring your mom who is so audacious with you.Had it hurt her if she could just wait outside like anyone.I ve said her good bye and she ought to wait in her car.But God knows why after 15 min she shows up in office.I hate her face of that day now.May be i need to cover up my own short comings.What hurts more is instant on your face rejection.I just got out one man told me to wait.He went up inside came out and told sorry.That's it.I wished they'll call me back.E mail me or whatever but it never happen.My mom wanted to go back and ask the reason of my rejection.How stupid.


 The reason i am remembering all this is that everyone i know are at some seemingly wonderful places doing job, M tech, MBA, MS and what not.And i am here ranting about my failed attempts..What can i say.It hurts..A LOT.. 

Hyderabad....

 Living in Hyderabad is a pleasure for me.It rains almost every day and sun is usually absent for better part of day.You must carry your rain preventing equipment always.Even if there is not a single cloud and sun is shining.You never know.And when it pours it could make you bath in 5 seconds.If i have seen most heavy downpour here then the i have also seen the most misty rain.It appears like dew is falling a little bit fast.The tiny rain drops almost struggle to stay afloat on air.You can only see them on water surfaces which ripples as if wind is blowing.But it's the rain.
  I wonder if people in Hyderabad ever talk about weather.It's always the same here.In Delhi it's impossible to have conversation without it.On the up side weather is hardly a problem like it's never too humid nor too hot or too cold obviously if you don't mind rain.
 There are plenty of problems as well.People have extremely irritating habit to spit on the road.You can hardly walk 10 steps without jumping or siding to avoid one with mucus.They feel no shame in doing so as well.It's Hyderabad who taught me to wear fully covering shoes all the time.
 I love the narrow alleys here.In few places room are so built that you wonder if you are in public road or somebody's home.Each home is unique telling about period of it making ,remaking or adding floors.Most humble ground floor can bloom into elegant balconies in first floors or more.Houses are usually 4 or more floors.So i end up travelling vertically more.What i hate that these homes have their water pipes opening in almost middle of narrow street.As a mechanical engineer at least .375 of the road length.So it's impossible far a street traveler to move without getting dirty water on his/her head.Else you have to be impossibly careful.
 The water draining system is quite okay.You may wonder why rain water doesn't stay more that 5 min on road than rain.Well every pavement has a slope and many manholes which apart from giving you a bumpy ride drains the water quickly.Apart from these there are small more holes opening in drainage below.Makes me wonder if every road has drainage flowing below.
  Here, water comes once in two days.So people store water in sinks in ground and of course water tanks on roof.Rest of the water from supply is just let to flow on the road carelessly.Talk about water conservation, i have seen water pipes without taps.I don't know how could they not realize water is precious.
  Transport is fine.But traffic is huge.Even people walking on road can get struck.But clothes and food is cheap.You get copies  in kilograms like 30 rs kg or 60 depending on page quality.
 Luckily i am blessed with nice room and nicer room partner so no troubles.Only glitch seems to be frequent absence of my tiffin which ups my budget enormously.Especially on sunday when most shops and eating places are closed..
Studies are great with my routine of getting up as early as 4 o clock.Mom was always right about early mornings...May be they always are..

living my life

 I know it will sound strange but sometimes i feel i am not living my life at all.I am just pretending somebody called aditi and doing things on impulse as much as i can.I have these separate ideas for living life and more often i find myself doing things which i won't like to do as me.How can i be reckless selfish in living as i am.Sometimes i am so double standard and insensitive towards everyone around me.It like that i can't believe that it's me who is acting on wicked emotions.And i swear they are so uncontrollable and strong.
  I am not even heroine of my life.You know earlier when i was more forgiving or ignorant of my own nature i was the heroine of my life's novel but now i feel myself more of a villain the vamp the bad girl and like wise.
 I keep on doing mistakes and do them again until i forget and do them once again.Seems like i just can't have my lessons or i am taking forever to learn as if i have a spare life with me and i am just sampling with this one.
 It causes a great deal of confusion between right and wrong.And i almost always go the wrong way.
  And i miss my father a lot.May be he could have helped to figure out myself and arrange ,my life better.I am jealous of those girls who have their fathers by their side to control them guide them lead them.And i find myself so alone.May be it's just a excuse for a serial mistake maker.But how could i explain that i simply don't get it all.I couldn't help it and may be if i go back i'll do them once again.
 Well i try to be cheerful strong and positive all the time.Deriving comfort in books novels movies etc but deep down i know some part of my heart will try to find a missing piece of my life .. my father,Whom i didn't had the opportunity to know him better.

My regrets..from last year coaching..

Well first of all i regret leaving my job.At least for now.I know that was something i didn't want to do all of my life but i felt great earning for myself though at that place there was nothing to be done of that money.But still i loved the feeling of going to bed tired and going to office in morning.
Secondly i regret taking the coaching thing kind of lightly.I just didn't had enough discipline to slog out or make out each and every point teacher made or wrote.I felt my basics were very weak and i reality they were.
  I kind of trusted on my luck and presence of mind to make do with half baked knowledge i gathered.I was to starry eyed with mysteries of mechanical engineering that every thing seemed new and exciting and yet so confusing.I failed to catch the details.Still i can say i making to gate and 2 psu's was not bad luck.
  I learned that when you actually start learning so many concepts your presence of mind or whatever could deceive you presenting seemingly obvious logic for wrong answer.You have to rely on hard work and practice for excellence.
 I should have made most of my time in coaching by listening to each and every thing judiciously and imbibing it in my mind and outside coaching by practicing more and reading.
  Now i completely believe in what Einstein was thinking when he said success was 1% inspiration and 99% prespiration and i am trying to do the same thing nowadays.It's kind of challenging but tend to give you regrets  and frustration.There is kind is uncertainty attached to my career.Sometimes i even contemplate if waiting to get a husband was more appropriate option.But when i see my classmates in jobs i feel bad about my own joblessness, dependency and the fact that i am still adhered to books they threw long back..  

Facing hard times..And South India

Feeling highly frustrated nowadays.And i know it's just a passing feeling.But as long as it's staying it's wrecking havoc on my self worth.Decision of coming to hyderabad and prepare for coaching was not as bad.and i know it's going to reap benefits in long run.But what about the present time.More one feels frustrated more one tends to lose hours of studying and more frustrated one feels.May be i need a movie or a choco pastry or just need to get away from this boring routine.Well pastry sounds good specially now when 3 hours have already passed since i stuffed myself.I know this blog is sounding more and more drab as it is progressing but why should i care.I don't know if anyone reads the blog even.I just want to get this feeling out of my system.
  I should write my schedule then.I get up at 5 o clock take bath do pranayam and pooja before i go to my class at 6.15 am  to 9.15 am.I know everyone in north well gasp at the timings but in south people are okay about it.Here people are more focussed and disciplined me thinks.In down side they are not good at multi tasking or personality development or any other soft skill for that matter.They are just brought up to bring good marks that's why one sees the percentage above 90 for b tech here.
  I think south India is some how male dominated.I don't know about other family but my land lord daughter is asked to eat less and sacrifice all good things for her good for nothing 3 brother who have been in police station,drink and smoke and known to have girlfriends.Even her mother and grandmother are accomplices and the family intends to get her married even before her graduation.She a brave soul regularly fights for her status and sometimes succeeds.I really appreciate her for not giving in to her father.
 Girls dress up very conservatively and non creatively with no fashion sense.I wonder if they know the meaning of this word or not.They dress up in most unflattering colours with unflattering fitting of salwar kurta and very modestly pinned up dupatta.Even a girl like me feels smartly dressed and beautiful. 
  As far as i know people follow austerity by heart even when they have enough money.I think they prefer to invest in gold as you will hardly find someone without gold chain and rings more yellow and thicker than in north.One lady was even murdered by her own relatives as she was wearing more than half kg of gold.Imagine her love for gold.
 People eat rice more often.Housewives complain that they and their family do like roti but it is quite an effort to stand in kitchen in heat and make them.I wonder why anyone in north doesn't complain about the effort that goes down in making roti.Can we say our ladies are more hardworking?Well i guess they never had a choice.
 Weather is nice.It rains everyday in hyd and i love it.My friends tell me it rains more in other parts of south india.
I ve not roamed around much so can't tell you places to visit.


Feeling better.At least i ve forgotten why i started writing in first place.Sometimes writing becomes meditation.
Going to have my choco pastry.
bye...

The new Airport experience...

Well..
   I know what i wrote about the old airport experience it being fabolous etc etc.I have got a new opinion about this.


This was the third time i was at airport going to mumbai for my interview for which my selection chances were technically exactly 8.5 to 1,which were further made worse from my answers and now finally stand 100:1.If i get selected it would be because of worse engineers present with me.I even thought of blogging questions but why to take risk and ruin further your chances.I know it is selfish but i promise after i get selected or rejected i will honestly post all the questions and let others to find the answers.

Airport is not sooooo nice place adn air plane is not too good.It's ok that you walk in bigger room with clean floors lightining and buy overpriced stuff which you don't need etc etc.But afterall it is a just a boring place with same shops as malls(Again you can't afford).People are so indiffrent and all are the same rich proudy selfish probably living off their parents money.Nowadays they even be corrupt living off OUR money.

Flight was very lousy.To save cost GoAIR didn't offered us plain water(Thank god i brought my own from home) leave alone snacks(I was hungry) or choclates(My brother was wishing or let's say praying).Instead they offered us in fight shopping experience.I don't know where these people get ideas to offer in plane bidding that too in low cost aircraft.

Even airs were not favourable.We got to experience a lot of turbulence and air in stomach feeling.Even while landing or getting off one feels so uncomfortable and my ears were paining so much.All through the flight i kept on wishing it ends as soon as possible.
But Mumbai was raining and i had idli sambhar sa soon as i was out and felt elated.After all i was i amchi mumbai.I am loving it here...

interestingg...

more fears...

 I recently gave first exam in life for which i actually studied for a considerable amount of time investing hard work and effort.Even though for a few days.And before those few days , few more days for getting frustrated for not studying and banging my head against wall for it or better sleeping for 12 to 15 hours a days and convincing myself i am not actually preparing for it.Well one day i gave up  and freed myself from the tedious exercise opening the book and sitting(actually sleeping) around it till i decided to something better with my time like cooking or cleaning or entertainment.And the next day i magically got all the dedication and motivation for studying.Well leave it i am not writing about that....
  My motive to write is to discuss my fears.Two or three days b4 i started wondering what if my calculator's battery die on the very day.I was so scared that i contemplated carrying a extra cell with screw driver to change it.I even asked for extra calculator from my friend who reminded me when was the last time i actually heard of someone getting new cell for his vital numerical device.I found it very logical and calmed myself down. 
  Very soon i discovered new fear on not reaching exam on time.I slept at 12 ensuring total 6 alarms in my cell  out of which 3 were for 4 o clock and other were for 5,6 and 7 just in case i didn't hear one i'll be still in time to reach my center.Despite of my sleeping for less than 8 hours from past 3 days i still got up at 3 o clock all by myself and then waited for the morning to come.
  Well more fears but i feel the blog is getting too boring so i would just write about my next fear.Now when the exam is over and i found out i am getting respectable marks i am fearing if i wrote my roll number and name right you know just in case.Till 15 march i'll keep my fingers crossed.




P.S.- I am yet to get behind the steering or handle to overcome my fear of driving.And the my bf rides his cbz extreme i am soon going to suffer from fear of sitting on a vehicle or a bike at least...

Fear of driving...

   It's been more than 7 years that my family owned a car and my mom confidently driving it.And strangely i ve never been curious about it.I enjoy much more sitting beside the driver and enjoying the scenery.Even when i sat on a bike with my Bf i hated the idea of actually riding the machine.
  But recently after continuously pestering of him and seeing even modest girls riding a bike so carefree and diligently i am having second thought about my reluctance.
  First problem is i just can't imagine myself actually riding the huge heavy machine and actually controlling it through mind boggling twist and turns of my hands and legs.I always fear i'll forget one or the other movement adn create a disaster.
  Secondly, i ve noticed the way people ruthlessly driving their way on roads.To make the matters worse there are auto s who are always adamant to make their way on streets one way or the other especially out of competition and then waiting hour long for the passengers.
 Thirdly i fear that somehow my mind will wander away and i'll ignore that bus crossing road and straight ram into it or take that one wrong decision to move left or right and will invite fury of my fellow road mates.
 Other fears are more vague like slipping failing brakes or any thing.Driving or riding feels so tough for a person like me.I really admire all those persons who take this risk everyday and every moment leaving their well being and life at mercy of streets and fellow travellers..


 As for me.. i have to still think thrice before taking bike in my own hands.But then one day or the other i have to overcome this fear.I have decided in my life that i'll never fear the fear and keep challenging myself.For this year it's my challenge....Please God help me..

passing days..

Well things are now cooling down.My efforts to stay awake in class are now negligible.I have started getting down to reasonable amount of studying though every now and then there is frustrating..break for God knows what reasons.

  I could still not study as much as i want to and this is very sick.I couldn't get away from my guilt.

Somehow i have a theory that most things i do is either because of guilt or regret.I was feeling guilty that i finished my college without significant knowledge of my subject so decided to give my self one more chance and and i joined coaching.Second reason was of course regret that if i don't do it now now i'll probably regret it through my life struck in lowly private job for no time for myself.

  Just look into your life and introspect what decisions one took just because of guilt and regret.

 Sorry now my G&R theory is telling me that i am already feelimg enough guilty for not studying and i'll regret all through tomorrow if i don't do it now...

 Ya.. Happy Diwali.. though i'll celebrate mine only when i turn successful keep myself away from darkness of sleepiness and boredom while studying..;;

studies..studies..studies..

At that time when  i joined the coaching and started it all seemed like dream.Sometimes i feel what got into me to take such a decision.One needs a lot of self discipline to make one study,especially the one like me.When the motivation begins to wear off and it seems to tough to keep your eyes black lines on the page of the book, get up and go to the class then fight the drowziness and get back and feel tired enough to sleep the whole day and night.Oh my God what i m doing here.Actually not doing here.My mom told from the start that hard work is not for you and she was speaking this on the basis of 22 years of watching me.I should ve believed her.Then and there.

   But what to do now.My positive attitude towards my improvement refuses to die down and i still found hope in disgustingly indolent , sleep and foodmaniac me.Well i ve always believed positive attitude is not a good thing, one should be quite pessimistic when it comes to estimating one's own capabilities.
  So i ve given up myself to fate and little bit of my optimisim and of course no use of cursing myself again and again.
I am not giving up and let the things be...
Who knows what fate has for me.
  

Nowadays..

Well.. i ve left my job for the higher goal to prepare for some govt job and joined coaching for the same.I know it appears quite foolish and unreasonable.I am still not able to explain mom my decision.I hope something good comes out of it.
  Looking for a liveable place in noida was quite tedious.Finally i settled for ghaziabad.
  Feeling very tensed and apprehensive.It could be a disaster as well.Ask me about taking risk.That 's all i ved one in my life.Justifying this decision to all the english movies i ve watched that encourage to charter the unknown path i move forward.It includes a lot of wait and inconsistent future,Need all the good wills ...hopes... blessings....luck etc etc.

P.S. I am keeping my fingers crossed...Pleaase pray for me.

I am finally home in the world of dinky cyber cafes and creepy guys looking at my computer screens and even sending me invites if they could guess my id.I don't know why there are no more cabins in net.So my all creative energies are gone.I got charged with latest comments and wanted to update it.

 Nowadays i am finding accomodation in Noida,As i realized that it is impossible to study at home.Quite tough task.You have to take care of various parameters like cost,comfort,security,Distance from metro etc ect and optimize each of them.

Well no matter how much i ve tried not to become an engineer but my linguistic and logicistic pattern predict that i think quite much like an engineer soon going to be MBA.

 Well time is running fast and i have to pay for it soo byee...

My goals for this year...

      This is my last post from my free college wi fi.I am leaving hostel by tomorrow out of pressure of my mom to come home (finally).She asked me so badly what was so important that kept me away from my home that i had to give up and agree to come back to where i belong.So all is over now.So called my best carefree days of my life.
   I got a call from my company for joining but i had to refuse them as i have other plans.It was tough and heart breaking when i had to break my promise to HR that i'll join that company.You see i want to me woman of words.Well one always have to make compromises in life i guess.
  No need to say that i am really sad leaving so many memories behind but it is indespensible.So to cheer myself up i am setting some goals for myself to finish in this academic year (starting from july) 

    

1.  I will crack CAT and make to some decent college with my sweetheart.

2.  I'll learn a new foreign language probably spanish or french before i take admission in college.


3.If possible i'll go for a month or two in BPO to improve my accent and vocals and obviously some money.


4.I will learn driving finally.I have this strange fear of roads and cars.I always feel i am not responsible and sensible enough to drive.But i'll have to overcome this and learn


  I know it is stupid but nothing seems to cheer me up (Yes not even these colours and fonts).  


For now i ve pack my bags go to roof and wound up all the memories i collected all over the time of four years.
  It's strange that for past four years i ve desperately waited to get this over.I can't believe that i am feeling so ravished.But then the time that i spent in my last year was quality time with right type of friends and right type of attitude.


 I know this blog may bore you or all of others blogs too,In any case i'll never get to know.I am upset enough to be crazy and disoriented.
  I don't know when i'll right next so untill then 


 Bye... 

Lessons in social behaviour..

      It was either my sheer ignorance or lack of curious attitude or lack of people around me that i never got to understand or say in other words got along with them.Somehow i believed that miracle friends will show up and i'll live happily ever after with them.How to manage a love relationship was the first thing i learnt from my boyfriend.He taught me to love a person despite of her shortcomings of course by example.But i never realized same rule applied to friendship as well.


  You have to stick around despite of various dissapointments ,show downs and other heart breaking things.I never realized this simple fact and quit at the first disagreeable things happened.I am not wrong if i say i was a social retard.I was just trying to prove everyone that i am absolutely independent and don't need anybody. On the other hand i never met people who understood me better and tried to prove me wrong.They either made fun of it or discarded it outright terribly hurting me in the process which in turn pushed me further into my shell.
      Some of other rules i learnt are..

1. One has to maintain a respectful distance while trying to help or advice someone.You might step on his ego or even look like a complete fool pushing your way on him.(P.S. It doesn't matter if you are right).
2. Always keep your weak or vulnerable point of views to yourself.You might not be able to prove yourself right or may get hurt in the process
3. When the other person is aggressive or possessive about some point of view(P.S. It doesn't matter if you are right.)  it's better to be as quite or at least polite.In this case "Speech is silver and silence is golden..".
4. Everyone yes everyone think he or she is always right so don't prove them wrong. (P.S. It doesn't matter if you are right.) 
5.  Keep on learning new things by your conduct with others and others conduct with you.Trust me you discover how does a particular behaviour feels.
6. Always try to find out your compatible company  like some of us like to be dominated while others like to be leader.
7. Keep a tight vigile on your attitude too.You must not be too bossy, too meek ,too smart, too quite or too verbose.In most cases "too much" much of anything will b critisized.
8. Most important learn to judge people and then show then their rightful places.In your heart or on your shoes heels.
9. Yes... in every case be yourself.Or you'll become frustrated  as time will pass and bubble will burst.
10. Last one ..no one likes a arrogant or self conscious person.No matter how much highly you think of yourself other person might not agree with you

    Well i am still a amateur and just started my lessons in social behaviour .For so many years i thought books were my best friends but you can't go shopping with books or chat up with them.So better keep your friends beside.Untill then i'll try to be a agreeable personality...