2.Urmilla:
Well she was the victim no.2 of whole story Ramayana.For the uninitiated. she was the beloved wife of Bro Lakshman who stay behind while he roamed around with his bro Ram.At least Sita had her beloved hubby with her through the ordeal but Urmila was even betrayed of this pleasure.She stayed all alone with out any support and i am sure any comforts would have done her any good.Even snatched of the right to know his well being, what a torture it must be to constantly worry about where his he,how is he,what he ate and most important is he coming back or not and when.And she was even denied of glory and recognition Sita got with no fault of her.She too offered to accompany her hubby but hubby had lifelong fixation with his brother that he forgot he had his duties towards to her.The least he could have done is not to deny her of his company.
Though i have many other mythical characters but i will continue about them later.When i told my roomies about Sita they pointed out that Sita was the first single mom of India or may be the world.She was also independent and brave enough to bring her children to this world despite of controversy regarding their fatherhood.So she must have been gutsy and robust as she not choosed to die like many her other counterparts.
Well I am not writing these because i am some sort of feminist... just to look things from different perspective.I very well understand it's not easy to a girl in even so called modern yet male dominated world.She has to constantly prove herself,press her desires to follow and many other minor and major sacrifices.Only then she gets respect as good sister,wife,mother and daughter.
Any girl not following the norms is considered imperfect to raise a family.I don't deny the harsh reality of this fact that girl needs to be mild,calm and caring.What gets me really miffed is the Sita or Rita mentality.There is so much pressure to confirm to stereotypes.Hardly someone judges a girl as grey characters mixed emotions.They are either typified as Marriage material or sluts.
And one more observation is that if a casanova guy wants to come clean and gets settled he's considered as someone who flawed and is easily forgiven and forgotten But if a girl of same reputation wants to come out she has to try double hard to carve the same niche for her.Even after that she's always classified as a slut and her mis adventures will be narrated at slightest provocation.
Well this is life and i am not complaining.One has to learn with these notions and prejudices and i am a woman enough to take it....
Monday, March 15, 2010
Sunday, March 14, 2010
wrong lessons from Ramayana..
Its only recently i got to ponder upon the plight of young girls in my hostel who's Boyfriends hardly pay any attention to them,are scared of commitment,and not even ready to put efforts in the relationship.They just woo gals in the beginning and forget to even care for them when they are all head over heels for guys.They need a girlfriends for namesake to show off between friends,sometimes for emotional support, and most important to roam around when they need so.And what's more irritating that they consider this as their birthright and feel no guilt or regret over it.They are perfectly stoic while hurting girls,crushing their self respect,destroying their priorities or what ever a girl allows them to lay their hand upon.I don't say girls are blameless yet according to my understanding they are just victim of emotions,in some cases loneliness and desperation in others.They forgive each and every whimsical mistake,submit to nonsensical demands and stay satisfied with desultory efforts.
Well i think this partiality is rooted deep inside the mythology.Though i am not a know all of it still this is my effort to understand what goes wrong with Indian males.
Following are the few Great ladies ho set the wrong example...
1.Lady Sita: She comes first for her sheer popularity.She roam around with her dearest hubby Mr Ram for 14 years,shunning all worldly comforts even being a privileged by birth..hardly leaving his side for a second.She supported his every decision,guided him and shared his all joys and sorrows.Not once she stopped him from fighting asurs even knowing that he's putting his life in danger.Such was her dedication to his cause.The only mistake she so called committed was to cross the lakshman rekha.But then if Ram expected Ravan to pay a visit shouldn't he be more careful.Was Sita's well being was not his responsibility being her husband.NO...he was more busy fulfilling her duties towards rishi munis and earning accolades and paving path of his glory for generations to come.
Then what right did he had to doubt on her even after "agni pariksha".If the result of this exam were doubtful,why she was made to undergo it in the first place.Did he ever thought what had happened to her if she were not get assistance of rishi when she was pregnant,time in which a girl needs her husband the most.And if he cared so much about public opinion why did he married her,exchanged vows of never leaving each other side for not only this life but next 7 lifes to come.Ya,he was a king first and husband later but he can't turn his face toward his own companion for 14 years for sake of public opinion.
The only so called glitch was people haven't accepted their sons as their king.But then why not Lakshman's kids or Bharat or Shtrus kids to have this honour.Why he wanted to keep the kingdom for his off springs.Wasn't it too selfish of him.I would say he never let his siblings to come out shadows of his own greatness.They remained the second lead to him always, never got a chance to develop,prosper without pressure to perform.
Well all i want to ask Ram that did he ever felt the guilt towards Sita
- For not protecting her from kidnapping,
- Making her agonize,fit and fume at Ravan's palace,
- For making her denounce all worldly pleasures for 14 years and many more years to come after.
- For letting her being homeless inspite of being a queen after her pregnancy and during child birth.
- For ending her life prematurely because of him.
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