Lessons in social behaviour..

      It was either my sheer ignorance or lack of curious attitude or lack of people around me that i never got to understand or say in other words got along with them.Somehow i believed that miracle friends will show up and i'll live happily ever after with them.How to manage a love relationship was the first thing i learnt from my boyfriend.He taught me to love a person despite of her shortcomings of course by example.But i never realized same rule applied to friendship as well.


  You have to stick around despite of various dissapointments ,show downs and other heart breaking things.I never realized this simple fact and quit at the first disagreeable things happened.I am not wrong if i say i was a social retard.I was just trying to prove everyone that i am absolutely independent and don't need anybody. On the other hand i never met people who understood me better and tried to prove me wrong.They either made fun of it or discarded it outright terribly hurting me in the process which in turn pushed me further into my shell.
      Some of other rules i learnt are..

1. One has to maintain a respectful distance while trying to help or advice someone.You might step on his ego or even look like a complete fool pushing your way on him.(P.S. It doesn't matter if you are right).
2. Always keep your weak or vulnerable point of views to yourself.You might not be able to prove yourself right or may get hurt in the process
3. When the other person is aggressive or possessive about some point of view(P.S. It doesn't matter if you are right.)  it's better to be as quite or at least polite.In this case "Speech is silver and silence is golden..".
4. Everyone yes everyone think he or she is always right so don't prove them wrong. (P.S. It doesn't matter if you are right.) 
5.  Keep on learning new things by your conduct with others and others conduct with you.Trust me you discover how does a particular behaviour feels.
6. Always try to find out your compatible company  like some of us like to be dominated while others like to be leader.
7. Keep a tight vigile on your attitude too.You must not be too bossy, too meek ,too smart, too quite or too verbose.In most cases "too much" much of anything will b critisized.
8. Most important learn to judge people and then show then their rightful places.In your heart or on your shoes heels.
9. Yes... in every case be yourself.Or you'll become frustrated  as time will pass and bubble will burst.
10. Last one ..no one likes a arrogant or self conscious person.No matter how much highly you think of yourself other person might not agree with you

    Well i am still a amateur and just started my lessons in social behaviour .For so many years i thought books were my best friends but you can't go shopping with books or chat up with them.So better keep your friends beside.Untill then i'll try to be a agreeable personality...