why judge others..

I live in a girls hostel and despite of staying away as i can from social gatherings the thing i come across is bitching and gossiping.No one spares anyone..best friends..room partners..schoolmates.And more often then not these are not genuine complains about each other.But this attitude is not limited to girls.We all are involved.

One single thing which is common in all people around me.in newspapers and i am sure even globally is our tendency to judge each other.We tend to do it by caste,place of belonging,schools or college attended,clothes,attitude,way of walking,past,boyfriends/girlfriends,grades,body,sunsigns and in china even by blood types.I just seems to me there are so many categories to jugde a person beforehand that you never really get to that person.Your predudices,your rockhard notions about right and wrong keep you away from the person.why such hatred,why such contempt.We all decide how the person is before evem talking to him and then all his further actions just keep on confirming your views untill of course some out of the world disclosure makes you see the real one.\

I ve always believed that we all inherit some kind on inferiority complex about ourselves, that's why from ages people found ways to look themselves better.See white and black in america..jews and christians in germany..bhramins and shudras in India....Now coming to recent times..we discriminate according to dress sense..bike or car owned.. social status..so called attitude..

Each time a girl gossip around me i search for a reason of her jealousy and often it's not very hard to find.Either the victim is more smart...more popular..more studious..has a great bf..great wardrobe..or anything.Trust me any thing will do even her way of sleeping,way of keeping her hair.We leave no opportunity to make ourselves look good in our own eyes.I ve seen girl who never have anything to say good about anyone and have "i am the best" kind of attitude.Somehow i feel they are the most insecure ones.More normal ones say one or two good things about other one but will never ever ever ever forget to add her or his shortcoming no matter how minute,but she will make it look like biggest blunder possible.

Most pathetic are the ones who themselves have the same shortcoming she is critisizing in other.Here she 'll shamelessly make herself more innocent and holier than thou as if other person don't know this about her.If you ever dare to point out this to her .She'll especially make efforts justify herself, denying the whole thing and most sensible discriminates her crime by distinguishing it by insignificant dissimilarities.

Though the victims are themselves predaters still some people lose their confidence over this.It's makes everyone sad even for a moment.We become more distrusting personalities.We become more cynic and consious about ourselves.Every one gets affected more or less.There are more flipside to this human nature than better ones.

Well i know my writing will not make difference.At least i want you all to think twice before hating someone..judging someone..in fact it's about more humane way of seeing each other.Everybody has flaws in family,studies,personality,past,body.Why do you judge with flaws instead of qualities?Why are you so insecure about urself that you need to make someone look bad to feel good about urself?Love and trust people genuinely.Help them to be better person, overcome their shortcoming,accept them.If even 10% people practise this world will be much better and easy place to live

'Dont judge others" is the first lesson of moral science book and first to be forgotten.Make it first one to be revised and practised...