Urmilla and women today..

2.Urmilla:
    
  Well she was the victim no.2 of whole story Ramayana.For the uninitiated. she was the beloved wife of Bro Lakshman who stay behind while he roamed around with his bro Ram.At least Sita had her beloved hubby with her through the ordeal but Urmila was even betrayed of this pleasure.She stayed all alone with out any support and i am sure any comforts would have done her any good.Even snatched of the right to know his well being, what a torture it must be to constantly worry about where his he,how is he,what he ate and most important is he coming back or not and when.And she was even denied of glory and recognition Sita got with no fault of her.She too offered to accompany her hubby but hubby had lifelong fixation with his brother that he forgot he had his duties towards to her.The least he could have done is not to deny her of his company.


  Though i have many other mythical characters but i will continue about them later.When i told my roomies about Sita they pointed out that Sita was the first single mom of India or may be the world.She was also independent and brave enough to bring her children to this world despite of controversy regarding their fatherhood.So she must have been gutsy and robust as she not choosed to die like many her other counterparts.
  


Well I am not writing these because i am some sort of feminist... just to look things from different perspective.I very well understand it's not easy to a girl in even so called modern yet male dominated world.She has to constantly prove herself,press her desires to follow and many other minor and major sacrifices.Only then she gets respect as good sister,wife,mother and daughter.
Any girl not following the norms is considered imperfect to raise a family.I don't deny the harsh reality of this fact that girl needs to be mild,calm and caring.What gets me really miffed is the Sita or Rita mentality.There is so much pressure to confirm to stereotypes.Hardly someone judges a girl as grey characters mixed emotions.They are either typified as Marriage material or sluts.


And one more observation is that if a casanova guy wants to come clean and gets settled he's considered as someone who flawed and is easily forgiven and forgotten But if a girl of same reputation wants to come out she has to try double hard to carve the same niche for her.Even after that she's always classified as a slut and her mis adventures will be narrated at slightest provocation.
   Well this is life and i am not complaining.One has to learn with these notions and prejudices and i am a woman enough to take it....